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Build Confidence With Strategies That Really Work
Peter Murphy
Wouldn't it be grand if we could just wake up in the morning,
brush our teeth and put on our confidence for the day?
Well, for those of us who don't have a drawer full, here are
4 simple strategies that will help you build confidence.
1. Accentuate the positive.
Be your own best friend. What do you tell a friend who's tried
something new, whether or not it turned out well? At least
you tried something new- good for you!
Accentuate the effort it took in doing something, rather than
the final outcome. (You'd do it for your best friend, wouldn't
you?) We all have limitations. The key is to accept that you
have them without dwelling on them.
2. Don't be afraid to take some risks.
When you are about to embark on a new experience, do you spend
your time worrying so much about the outcome you aren't enjoying
the moment?
If you look at new things in your life as a chance to learn
something, it opens up the possibility of you becoming good
at that something. If you spend your time dreading the outcome,
you'll turn any opportunity there might have been into a failure.
What's more, we can't grow when we are frozen with fear. Don't
set yourself up to fail. If you do, look at number one, again!
3. Use self-talk to keep assumptions away.
We all use self-talk. The key is to use it in a way that we
don't form bad thoughts that can lead to permanent doubts.
Catch yourself using negative self-talk and cancel it with
something positive and not based on assumptions!
Build confidence by not expecting perfection from yourself
at all times. You can only do your very best at something.
Nobody can do everything perfectly, so why do you assume that
you should be able to?
4. Learn to rely on your self-evaluation.
If you always rely on the opinion of others, you'll always
be wondering what they think! That does nothing to build confidence
- it tears it down, by giving away your personal power to
others.
Focus on the real you, inside, to find out how you feel about
your own actions, how you've been doing your job, etc. You'll
be developing a strong sense of who you are.
It's important to remember that no one can be self-confident
all of the time. In fact, you'll build confidence faster and
easier once your realize that.
Most people with low self-esteem or who lack in confidence
are that way because of unrealistic expectations. They expect
more from themselves than they do others.
A person with low self-esteem will think nothing about calling
him or herself a 'stupid idiot.' They wouldn't dream of saying
that to someone else. To build confidence it's a good idea
to be your own best friend.
Peter Murphy is a peak performance expert. He recently
produced a very popular free report: 10 Simple Steps to Developing
Communication Confidence. Apply now because it is available
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Article Source: http://www.upublish.info
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