Working with a Coach
I am sure that at some stage in your life you have dreamed
of being someone special, someone important or successful.
It can seem so hard at times to take that first step and step
outside where we are right now to where we want to be. Today
more and more people want to take that first step and are
finding themselves working with a Coach to achieve what they
One of the first things a Coach will do when they work with
you is help you to set yourself goals which you can then start
to work towards achieving. Before you start to work with a
coach you can do some work on moving things forward in your
own life by thinking about your goals.
The most common problem people encounter when they think about
setting goals is the word impossible. Most people get hung
up thinking I can't do this. It's too hard. It's too impossible.
No one can do this. However, if everyone thought that, there
would be no inventions, no innovations, and no breakthroughs
in human accomplishment.
Remember that scientists were baffled when they took a look
at the humble bumblebee. Theoretically, they said, it was
impossible for the bumblebee to fly. Unfortunately for the
bumble, bee no one has told it so. So fly it does.
On the other hand, some people suffer from dreaming totally
outrageous dreams and not acting on them. Sadly the result
is broken dreams and tattered aspirations. If you limit yourself
with self-doubt, and self-limiting assumptions, you will never
be able to break through and past those things that you deem
impossible. If you reach too far out into the sky without
working towards your goal, you will find yourself clinging
onto the impossible dream.
Try this exercise for a few weeks. Take a piece of paper and
write down some goals in your life. Under one header, list
down things 'you know you can do'. Under another header, write
the things 'you might be able to do.' And under one more,
list the things that that are 'impossible for you to do.'
Now look at all the headers and for a few weeks strive every
day to accomplish the goals that are under things 'you know
you can do'. Place a tick beside them when you are able to
accomplish them. As you slowly are able to tick all of your
goals under that heading, start to try accomplishing the goals
under the other header, the one that reads 'you might be able
As you achieve the items you wrote under "things I could do"
you can start to move the goals that are under things that
are 'impossible for you to do' to the list of things 'you
might be able to do.'
As you progress through this process, you will find out that
the goals that you thought were impossible become easier to
accomplish. You will surprise yourself as the impossible begin
to seem possible after all.
You see, the technique here is not to limit your imagination.
It is to aim high and to start working towards that goal little
by little. However, it is unwise to set a goal that is truly
Those who just dream towards a goal without working hard end
up disappointed and disillusioned. On the other hand, if you
told someone a hundred years ago that it was possible for
man to be on the moon, they would laugh at you. If you had
told them that you could send mail from here to the other
side of the world in a few seconds, they would say you were
out of your mind. But, through sheer desire and perseverance,
these impossible dreams are now daily realities.
If it's so easy you may be wondering why you need a Coach.
One of the principle benefits of working with a Coach is that
they will inspire you to work towards your goals and support
you as you achieve them. Above all else they will be there
to hold you accountable as you strive to achieve your goals.
Paul Duxbury is an experienced management trainer
and Coach. Do you want to achieve your goals and live the
lifestyle you really want? Read more at www.fulfilling-your-dreams.com
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