How To Break Through Negativity
Ab van Deemter
Many of us still don't realize that we can be in control
of our thinking processes; that in most cases we can be the
boss over how we want to think.
Because of frustrations about our challenges and our frequent
feeling of being overwhelmed, many of us have developed incredibly
negative thinking patterns and these negative conceptions
make it even harder to manage our challenges and move forward
in our lives.
Negative thinking processes can be positively influenced by
practicing positive thinking. It helps us to focus on what
we are good at and what we have achieved, which increases
feelings of motivation and happiness. The result of this is
that it reduces our feelings of being depressed or stuck,
because we are moving forward into a more positive direction.
If you follow the under mentioned self motivation tips and
use them as self motivation exercise you will develop self
motivation skills and you will notice a shift towards more
positive thinking patterns.
1. Nurture yourself
It will help you tremendously to be more positive when you
look after yourself well. Eat healthy, exercise, take a nice
hot bath once in a while, have a regular massage, go to the
sauna once a week, make sure you rest well, etc., etc.
2. No judgements
If you learn to observe your negative thoughts as passing
clouds and realize that it is your choice whether or not you
attach to one of them, you do not empower negative thoughts,
so that they do not have any power over you. We have 60.000
thoughts per day and it's our choice entirely which one we
choose to hold on to.
3. Be physical
We all know how wonderful it can feel when we get or give
a hug. It's great to have warm physical contact with people
we love and it's even great when we do it with our pets. It
instantly gives us a warm feeling inside.
4. Find more social activity
Surround yourself with positive, happy and healthy living
people and get nurtured by that energy, because this will
have a positive influence on you.
5. Be grateful
There is so much to be grateful for! Take some time each day
to think about the things that are good in your life. Make
a little list of these things on a post-it and stick them
in your diary, on your computer, on the bathroom mirror, so
that you are constantly reminded. By reminding yourself of
the things you are grateful for you are much better able to
deal with challenges and stress issues in your life.
6. Reduce your convictions
During our life we build up all types of convictions about
things. "That is not done" or "You should have done so and
so ...." are simple examples. By not delivering the message
of them you expand your world, so that more people and situations
can enter your world. It makes your world a bigger and better
place. Also refrain from statements like: "You always do that
to me" or "You never pay attention to me". Saying things like
that make situations seem worse than they are and they program
your brain into believing that certain people just don't perform.
7. Speak up for yourself
From our parents and society we have learned to speak in such
a way that we are being accepted, so that we are seen as normal.
With this habit we have sometimes developed a fear of not
being liked or accepted and we start to assume we know what
the other person thinks about us. Stop wasting your time and
energy worrying over something you don't even know exists.
Start talking to people and ask questions. Speak up for yourself,
let them hear your voice. Remember that by speaking from your
heart you start to attract whatever it is that you truly want
in your life.
8. Stop assuming
Many amongst us tend to automatically have negative thoughts
about certain things. "Those people are whispering, they must
be talking about me" or "My boss wants to see me, that means
trouble". Crush these type of negative thoughts immediately.
They are nothing more than idle fancies.
9. Help other people
Each individual feels energized, warm and good about himself
after helping another person. See how you can help people.
Be a volunteer somewhere, be of help to someone or something
or see how you can contribute to society any other way. The
more positive energy you put out into the world, the more
you will receive in return.
10. Break through the pattern of extensive worrying
If you notice you are brooding on a negative thought extensively,
than interrupt that process by forcing yourself to do something
completely different. Notice that you are hyper focussing
on something negative, something that does not serve you.
At such moments your are not productive, not rational and
not solution oriented, you are worrying excessively for the
sake of worrying. By doing something physical like picking
up a book, listening to some music, going for a run, or even
going for a walk you break through this negative thinking
With these self motivation tips you can start changing your
negative thinking patterns. Therefore I recommend you to have
a good and conscious look at how you are presently functioning
in your life and if necessary to do some self motivation exercise
in order to obtain the necessary self motivation skills.
Ab van Deemter (http://www.passiontogrow.com)
is a Personal Growth specialist and a spiritual person, who
believes in sharing his knowledge of personal perseverance.
He has studied metaphysics and other holistic methods for
many years and embarked on a life of success. With successful
tools for personal freedom he has made it past a life full
of obstacles and now mentors and teaches business owners,
their staff, his own employees, as well as a large group of
private individuals. .
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