4 Steps to Transforming Your
Negative Self-talk into an Inner Coach
Your thoughts have a powerful effect on you. They affect your
attitude, your physiology, and your motivation to act. Your
negative thoughts actually control your behavior. They can
make you stutter, spill things, forget your lines or breathe
Research indicates that the average person talks to himself
or herself about 50,000 times a day. According to psychological
researchers, it is 80% negative; things such as I shouldn't
have said that... They don't like me... I don't like the way
my hair looks today... I can't dance... I'll never be a good skater...,
I'm not a speaker... I'll never lose this weight... I can't ever
seem to get organized... I'm always late.
We also know from lie-detector tests that your body reacts
to your thoughts. These physiological changes, such as heart
rate and breathing rate, occur when you're lying but also
in reaction to every thought you think. Every cell in your
body is affected by every thought you have.
Negative thoughts affect your body negatively, weakening you.
Positive thoughts affect your body in a positive way, making
you more relaxed, centered and alert. It is your job to control
and master your thoughts. You are 100% responsible.
But there is a core principle you need to understand about
self-criticism and self-judgment: It is always motivated by
love and has always some positive intention or positive goal
attached to it. Now, this positive intention doesn't show
immediately. It needs some reflection at first. But with some
practice, like everything else, it comes within seconds and
here comes the change.
Here are four steps you will need to take to master your thoughts
and to transform your inner critic into an inner coach.
1. It's Time to Step Back. The first step of any strategy
to change your emotions or personal history is to step back
and reflect on what is going on inside of you. It is as if
you were stepping back from your thinking and were looking
at it. By doing this you go to a higher psychological level
where change can take place. As Albert Einstein said, "The
significant problems we face cannot be solved by the same
level of thinking that created them."
2. Look for the positive intention. One of the most
magnificent beauties of the human mind is self-reflexivity.
This means that you not only think about an event, but you
think about what you just thought about that specific event.
It's like layers of thoughts that are formed at the back of
your mind in a fraction of a second. Now, you can peel away
the layers and discover the positive intention of that negative
thought by asking yourself the following question: "What is
the good or the positive intention of that part of me that
just thought..." or "What does that part of me that just thought...
wants that is good for me". Were you able to find it?
3. Feel how your emotions are changing. When you find
that positive intention, you discover a whole new part of
you. The part that wants you to be better, to feel better
and to be everything you're capable of. That way, your self-esteem
increases, you have more confidence in yourself, you trust
yourself more and you achieve more.
4. Thank yourself for caring about you. Now, you're
going to play the appreciation game and that is to thank yourself
for the beautiful human being you are. Because you understand
your unique value, your importance in the world, you can more
quickly and more easily go for your dreams and live a more
Negative thoughts happen to everybody. The difference between
a successful person and another is just that he or she has
learned how to master his thoughts and emotions. With these
four little but powerful steps, you can beat your negative
thoughts and therefore your negative emotions. You will radiate
more energy to accomplish your goals and you will function
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