3 Words That Relieve Stress, Depression & Anxiety
One of the most common flawed modes of behavior performed
by every sufferer who enters into a harrowing episode of stress,
depression or anxiety concerns the words they use to describe
situations and events they are confronted with. In using powerful,
emotive words, sufferers will trigger the fear response and
the more they use such words, the worse their suffering gets.
Powerful, emotive words are part of everybody's vocabulary.
Sometimes, we use powerful words when we lose our temper or
we become angry and frustrated. In this state, we give vent
to our feelings and the emotions within us have an outlet.
This is fine. For most people, once their emotions have been
expressed, they return to their usual selves and life carries
on as normal.
But it doesn't work like this if you are prone to stress,
depression or anxiety.
In these states, sufferers will react negatively to every
event they are confronted with in their lives. One of the
negative reactions concerns using powerful and emotive words
that can make even the most insignificant of events a major
problem. Words can and do have that much power and in this
article, I'm going to show you how this works with three of
the worst words you can use to assign meanings to events.
Nothing, everything and never.
For example, let's say your relationship with your spouse
breaks down. Here's how using the above words can trigger
stress, depression or anxiety:
"Well that's it. EVERYTHING has gone wrong in my life. I'm
NOTHING without him/her and I know I'll NEVER be happy ever
Can you see how flawed this highly emotive reaction is and
can you see how these words - seemingly innocuous by themselves
- have made one event a major, stressful episode by assigning
a catastrophic meaning to your whole life?
To avoid arousing such fearful emotions, here are three better,
much less emotive words you can use to lower the intensity:
For everything, use ONLY. For Never, use TEMPORARY. For nothing,
So let's use these words to find a less intense meaning to
the event in our example, the breakdown of an intimate relationship:
"OK, my relationship is over, but it ONLY affects my love
life. SOME things will change but other areas of my life -
my work, my friendships, my hobbies and my social life will
carry on as normally as possible. I'm hurting now, but this
is TEMPORARY and things will get better in due course."
Can you see how using different words can dramatically reduce
the impact and make much clearer sense of the event? This
is exactly why some people never enter into a stressful, depressive
or anxious episode even when they are faced with the most
trying of circumstances, such as relationship breakdown.
Everything, nothing and never are just three of the emotive
words used by sufferers. There are many more - including expletives
that are far too strong to use here - but if you use the three
alternatives I've given in this article, you will drastically
reduce the chances of entering into an episode of stress,
depression and anxiety.
Be aware of the words you use to assign meanings - mind your
See you soon.
Copyright © 2006 Christopher Green
Former anxiety sufferer Chris Green is the author
of "Conquering Stress", the internationally acclaimed program
which will help you to permanently conquer stress, depression
and anxiety without taking powerful drugs. For a free mini
course, please click here => www.conqueringstress.com